I’ve developed a little end of year tradition of sharing some reflections and learnings from the past year. The person this is most helpful to me is probably me, but here they are in case others find them useful!
1/ Conversations don’t work unless someone is actually listening. I learned much more about staying curious, active listening and the art of asking better questions thanks to a Coaching Course from Innovista Ireland. In the words of Eugene Peterson, “Quit talking so much and learn silence.”
2/ Most people are simply trying their best. My dominant posture to others should be encouragement and kindness. My best hot-takes or nuggets advice probably aren’t needed.
3/ We might feel we’re being helpful to declare that a crisis will end soon, but it’s annoying to be told a few miles into a marathon that you’re nearly finished. It gives a false reality and actually diminishes hope. Progress is not an inevitable curve upward to the right. When things are hard and the end isn’t in sight, it’s better to just focus on the next step.
4/ “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders.” (Isaiah 9:6) God has broad shoulders.
5/ Writing and publishing have enabled me to amplify some of my thoughts this year. In many ways this has been really encouraging, and if I’m honest, even felt a little exciting and exhilarating at times. But conversely I’ve actually found myself now craving a quieter space for a season. To say less. To withdraw to do more deep work. That’s my current priority.
6/ My relationship with technology took a backward step last year during lockdowns, causing me to wonder if I own my phone or if my phone owns me. It now sleeps in a separate room than I do. No phone before breakfast is over. Silent mode on more. Do not disturb set. Turned upside down often.
7/ Linked to this, I’ve realised my attention span can be developed. We are the generation of Continuous Partial Attention and it is distracting us from deep work, meaningful awareness and even rest. Set the phone down and watch the movie. Stop multi-tasking and enjoy the game.
8/ I became more aware of my own physical weakness and tiredness this year, particularly in a busy summer and autumn season. Running-wise, I actually ran less but trained at a higher intensity in 2021. As a result I ran faster than ever, yet also spent more weeks on the side-lines. The balancing line is thin. There are parallels with life.
9/ I’m less excited by heroic individuals and more energised by committed and functioning teams. Being the heroic individual leads to the endless gauntlet of more. It’s good in the short-term but disastrous in the long-term. If you’re a leader, consider how you can involve others in simple tasks.
10/ At times this year I haven’t known what to do or what decision to take. When there wasn’t a perfect way-forward or a complete vision, sometimes it just helped to do something. Momentum is built through movement. It’s easier to steer a moving ship. You can always edit a bad page. Just do something.
11/ In a world of intoxicating self-centredness, the most refreshing and countercultural trait is that of humility. I can’t help but think I’ve taken myself far too seriously at times. There’s a need to hold some things more lightly and dial the intensity back. I want to relax and laugh more. Life is too short to not have fun.
12/ I’ve read some great books this year. Most helpful: “Plugged In” by Dan Strange. Most challenging: “Deeply Formed Life” by Rich Villodas. Most life-giving: “Beautiful Resistance” by Jon Tyson. Most enjoyable: “Burning in my Bones” by Winn Collier
13/ And my favourite quote this year: “It helps, now & then, to step back & take a long view. The kingdom is not only beyond our efforts, it is even beyond our vision. We accomplish in our lifetime only a tiny fraction of the magnificent enterprise that is God’s work. Nothing we do is complete, which is a way of saying that the Kingdom always lies beyond us.”

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